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Larry Ripple stole $3000 from a Kansas City bank at gunpoint. Then he sat down in the bank lobby, told a security guard, “I am the guy you are looking for,” and waited for police. He then confessed to police that he had earlier argued with his wife and told her “he’d rather be in jail than at home.”…

In his book, Leadership and Conflict, Speed B. Leas writes, “Invite the other (even a person who is attacking you) to join you in a common search to identify what the problems are, stay with the other in order to work through the differences, look for alternatives that you both can agree have merit and…

Police in New Jersey say a man has been charged with leaving the scene of an accident and reckless driving backing his car into a utility pole. David Scarpa turned himself in to authorities the following day and told them he had left the scene of the accident because he did not want to deal with his…

The entire Thanksgiving weekend used to be a time for families to be together. Then came Black Friday—a day to get good deals for clothing and electronics. Today, many are staying home again, due to the increase of violence. In the Chicago area, in 2013, a police officer shoots a thief at a Kohl’s Department…

On an Air India flight the captain and his co-pilot had a difference of opinion. It grew into an argument that escalated to trading blows in the cockpit. The pilots agreed to stop fighting and complete the flight from Jaipur to Delhi to avoid inconveniencing passengers. It is wise for us to realize that…

32-year-old Walid Chaabani had enough, so left home to get away from his wife, even though he knew that doing so would result in going to prison for breaking the terms of house arrest. According to police, "Living with his wife was particularly difficult and unbearable." He told authorities that he was…

A newspaper in Florida is reporting that when Ana Maria Moreta Folch had problems with her neighbor she took matters into her own hands and had their mobile home bulldozed. Moreta Folch told a heavy equipment operator that she owned the trailer that Maria Gottfried and her family was living in. Moreta…

A recent study out of Norway shows that divorce rates there are about 50% higher among couples who shared the housework compared with those in which women did most of the chores. One clue to the reason for this comes from another study by Bosch, the high-end dishwasher company. They say that 40% of couples…

Disagreements over finances are the most common source of marital discord and experts say fighting over money may do may damage than couples realize. A study conducted by the Utah State University found that couples who disagreed about money once a week were twice as likely to divorce as those who differed…

People have tied a lot of tricks to get out of traffic tickets, but for a University of California physicist, a four page explanation of why he was not guilty of running a stop sign did the trick. The judge dismissed the ticket after Dmitri Krioukov submitted a paper entitled, “Proof of Innocence.” In…

Jeffrey and Amanda Radle don’t exactly see eye to eye when it comes to politics. Apparently, when Jeffrey couldn’t persuade his wife to come around to his political point of view, he tried to stop her from going to the polls to cast her ballot. He stood in front of the family Dodge Durango so she couldn’t…

Baylor University psychologists questioned 3,539 married couples to determine what couples argue about. They discovered that although arguments involve many different topics the tension that sparked the arguments “almost always involved deeper issues relating to whether the partners felt understood or…

Did you hear about Rodney King’s recent passing? King was best known as a victim of police brutality. The L.A. Riots were sparked by a video of Police apprehending King after an 8 mile car chase. During the Riots, rioters took the lives of fifty people, injured 2000 more, looted businesses, and started…

In Flickering Pixels, Shane Hipps writes, “Even though face-to-face conflict is often avoided in individualistic cultures, that doesn’t mean it goes away. Conflict simmers in the shadowy back alleys of relationships. Eventually, it will find more insidious ways to disrupt our lives if we don’t keep it…

In Every Congregation Needs a Little Conflict, George Bullard writes, “Perceived truthful information is more powerful than truth. It is what people come to believe to be truth. It fits their preconceived notions. It fits their position on the conflict situation. They convince themselves and others that…

In Fire Storm, Ron Susek writes, “It’s all too easy to assume that someone who intensely disagrees with you is either dead wrong at best, or demon possessed at worst. Be sure that the person is clearly sinning before God and not merely engaging in valid disagreement. What’s the difference? Valid disagreement…

In Thriving through Ministry Conflict by Understanding Your RED and Blue Zones the authors write, “In conflict, the vast majority of the time, the problem is more in us than it is in the person with whom we are in conflict. So resolution does not come from winning or changing the behavior of the other…

RECONCILIATION In the motion picture Bride Wars, Liv and Emma are best friends for life. Since they were young, each has dreamed of an ultimate wedding in New York’s Plaza Hotel, with each serving as the other’s Maid of Honor. Though their lives take different directions, the women stay close friends,…

STORY In "Encouraging the Heart", Kouzes and Posner write, "The renowned trial attorney Gerry Spence-who, by the way, has never lost a criminal trial-says that 'the strongest structure for any argument is story.'" —"Encouraging the Heart", p 101. Illustration by Jim L. Wilson Romans 4:2 (MSG) "If Abraham,…

Teamwork The final seconds on the clock were ticking down. It was fourth and goal to goal and we were behind by just a few points against a rival school. A touchdown would mean victory. Our quarterback called time out and went to the sidelines to get a play from the coach. The manager brought water for…

APOLOGETICS When I was young in the Lord, there were times that I was abrasive or outright rude when I was trying to witness. My conversations quickly turned to confrontations as I set out to prove I was right and they were wrong. Whenever I shifted into "street preacher rude", I was never successful…