What to Do When I Disagree
“36 And after some days Paul said to Barnabas, “Come, let us return and visit the brethren in every city where we proclaimed the word of the Lord, and see how they are.” 37 And Barnabas was of a mind to take with them John called Mark. 38 But Paul thought best not to take with them one who had withdrawn from them in Pamphylia, and had not gone with them to the work. 39 And there arose a sharp contention, so that they separated from each other; Barnabas took Mark with him and sailed away to Cyprus, 40 but Paul chose Silas and departed, being commended by the brethren to the grace of the Lord. 41 And he went through Syria and Cilicia, strengthening the churches.” Acts 15:36-41
¨ [CONSULT] the [BOUNDARIES]
“6 I have applied all this to myself and Apollos for your benefit, brethren, that you may learn by us not to go beyond what is written, that none of you may be puffed up in favor of one against another”.1 Cor 4:6
“1As for the man who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not for disputes over opinions…17 For the kingdom of God is not food and drink but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit; 18 he who thus serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men.” Romans 14:1 & 17-18
¨ [COMMIT] to [COMMUNICATION]
“Therefore, putting away falsehood, let every one speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. 26 Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the devil.” Ephesians 4:25-27
· Talking To The Party Involved Makes You A Peacemaker.
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.” Matthew 18:15
· Talking About The Parties Involved Makes You Perverse.
“A perverse man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends” .Prov 16:28
¨ [CHECK] Your [ATTITUDE]
“1 Now concerning food offered to idols: we know that “all of us possess knowledge.” “Knowledge” puffs up, but love builds up. 2 If any one imagines that he knows something, he does not yet know as he ought to know. 3 But if one loves God, one is known by him.”1 Corinthians 8:1-3
Loving God Is Essential To Human Disagreements Because…
Y It Allows Me To Get The Focus Off [MYSELF].
“3 Do nothing from selfishness or co nceit, but in humility count others better than yourselves 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”Phil 2:3-4
Y It Allows Me To Stop Arguing And Start [LISTENING].
By insolence the heedless make strife, but with those who take advice is wisdom.
“The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.”
Y It Allows Me To Be Accurate In My [Self-Evaluation].
“46 For if you love those who love you, what reward have you... 48 You, therefore, must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” Matthew 6:46a & 48
Y It Helps Me Follow God’s [DIRECTION] And [INSTRUCTION].
“8 Good and upright is the Lord; therefore he instructs sinners in the way. 9 He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble his way”. Psalms25:8-9
A Song of Ascents.
“1 Behold, how good and pleasant it is
when brothers dwell in unity!
2 It is like the precious oil upon the head,
running down upon the beard,
upon the beard of Aaron,
running down on the collar of his robes!
3 It is like the dew of Hermon,
which falls on the mountains of Zion!
For there the Lord has commanded the blessing,
life for evermore.”