Daniel Gilbert, a Harvard psychologist studies happiness. One thing he discovered is that married people are happier than those who just live together. He uses himself as an example. “My girlfriend and I had been living together for a dozen years.” Because of his discovery, he proposed marriage. How did it work out? “I love my wife more than I loved my girlfriend, even though she’s the same person. Commitment isn’t just a sign of love; it is a cause of love.”
--Reader’s Digest, February, 2010, p. 16 Illustration by Jim L. Wilson and Rodger Russell
God can command a man to love his wife because God already knew that commitment is a cause of love. Sometimes the action of loving someone wholeheartedly precedes the feelings of love.
Ephesians 5:25 (NASB77) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her;