Until You Come Back To Me (That's What I'm Gonna Do)

Pastor C. H. Jr.

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Song of Solomon 3:1–5

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Exalting Jesus in Song of Songs Is He Really the Man of My Dreams? (Song of Songs 3:1–5)

The right spouse is worth waiting for and searching after diligently. In the gospel, Jesus Himself seeks after His bride even when she is unworthy.

Introduction- Sweet love of Quiet Storm love songs

Lift Me Up by Rihanna (Wakanda Forever Soundtrack 2022)

Lift me up

Hold me down

Keep me close

Safe and sound

Burning in a hopeless dream

Hold me when you go to sleep

Keep me in the warmth of your love

When you depart, keep me safe

Safe and sound

Sweet Dreams by Beyonce (2008)

Turn the lights on!

Every night I rush to my bed

With hopes that maybe I'll get a chance to see you

When I close my eyes, I'm going out of my head

Lost in a fairytale, can you hold my hands and be my guide?

Clouds filled with stars cover your skies

And I hope it rains, you're the perfect lullaby

What kind of dream is this?

You can be a sweet dream or a beautiful nightmare

Either way I don't wanna wake up from you (turn the lights on)

Sweet dream or a beautiful nightmare

Somebody pinch me

Your love's too good to be true (turn the lights on)

Tender Love- Force MDs (1985)

Here I lay all alone

Tossing, turning

Longing for some of your

Tender love

I'm waiting for the right

Moment to come

So I can thank you for

All the tender love you've given to me

Tender love (tender love)

Love so tender

Holding me close to you

Baby, I surrender

All I Do Is Think of You- Jackson 5 (1975) remade by Troop (1989)

I can't wait to get to school each day

And wait for you to pass my way

(And bells start to ring) and angels start to sing

Hey that's the girl for you (ooh, yeah)

So what are you gonna do? (oh, baby)

Hey little girl I love you so (I love you so)

All I do is think of you

Day and night that's all I do (that's all I do, baby)

I can't get you off my mind

Think about you all the time, all the time

Sweet Love by Anita Baker- 1st single off her sophomore album Rapture (1986)

With all my heart, I love you, baby

Stay with me and you will see

My arms will hold you, baby

Never leave, 'cause I believe I'm in love

Sweet love

Hear me callin' out your name

I feel no shame

I'm in love, sweet love

Don't you ever go away

It'll always be this way

Have You Seen Her by the Chi-Lites (1971)

They all gather 'round me, huh

They seem to know my name

We laugh, tell a few jokes

But it still doesn't ease my pain

I know I can't hide from a memory

Though day after day I've tried

I keep sayin' she'll be back

But today again I've lied

Oh, I see her face everywhere I go

On the street and even at the picture show

Have you seen her

Tell me have you seen her

Until You Come Back To Me (That’s What I’m Gonna Do)- Luther Vandross (1983)

My mama purchased them album “Busy Body” by Luther Vandross. It was his 3rd solo album.

Luther Vandross’ third album Busy Body is the apex of his collaboration with producer and bassist Marcus Miller, and it positively leaps out of the speakers with the synthetic stabs of opener I Wanted Your Love.

his version of Superstar, featuring sections of Aretha Franklin’s take on Until You Come Back to Me, is one of his greatest moments.

Don't you remember you told me you love me, baby You said you'll be coming back this way again Baby, baby, baby, baby, oh baby I love you I really do

Long ago

And oh so far away

I fell In love with you

Before the second show

And your guitar

And you sound so sweet and clear

But you're not really here

It's just the radio

Don't you remember you told me you love me, baby

You said you'll be coming back this way again

Baby, baby, baby, baby, oh baby, yeah

I love you

I really do

hey, hey, hey, hey (To be yours) oh-oh, oh, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah You look for me to be yours (to be) You want my love But you're on the road Don't you remember me anymore

And loneliness

Is such a sad affair

A sad, sad affair

And I can't hardly wait

To be with you again

And what to say, to say To make you come again Oh, honey Come on back to me again (yeah) I wanna be, I wanna be Anywhere you are

Don't you remember you told me you love me, baby You said you'll be coming back this way again Baby, baby, baby, baby, oh baby, yeah I love you I really do

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, ooh Play it easy, play it easy Keep it right there, keep it right there, keep it right there Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah When are you gonna say It's alright, it's alright Ooh baby, it's alright, it's alright Alright now Keep it right there, keep it right there It's alright, it's alright Ooh baby, it's alright, it's alright

It is alright to talk about love in the church, not just loving God and your brother and sister in Christ, but love between a man and woman....

Transition To Body- Song of Solomon (Song of Songs)

Illustration: Conversation with Strong Ministry Youth after a True Love Waits Ceremony

Intimacy Between & Women in the Bible

Genesis 2:24–25 ESV

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

Proverbs 5:18–19 ESV

18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, 19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

Ecclesiastes 9:9 ESV

9 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.

Implications of the Fall

Genesis 3:7 ESV

7 Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths.

Unbiblical Marital Intimacy Theology

1 Corinthians 7:1–5 ESV

1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The Love Song name Song of Solomon (also known as the Song of Songs )& intimacy in the Bible between a man and a woman

Body- The Joy of Anticipation & the delight of courting

Dream About the One Your Heart Loves (So 3:1)

Song of Solomon 3:1 ESV

1 On my bed by night I sought him whom my soul loves; I sought him, but found him not.

Soul-

Dictionary of Biblical Languages with Semantic Domains: Hebrew (Old Testament) 5883 נֶפֶשׁ

heart, the inner self, i.e., the essence of life, including thinking, feeling, willing, desiring

Genesis 34:3 ESV

3 And his soul was drawn to Dinah the daughter of Jacob. He loved the young woman and spoke tenderly to her.

e-harmony

Prospective members complete a proprietary questionnaire about their characteristics, beliefs, values, emotional health and skills. Matching algorithms, which the company believes match people's core traits and values to replicate the traits of happy couples, use these answers to match members with users the company believes will be compatible.

Speed Dating

Speed dating is a formalized matchmaking process with the purpose of encouraging eligible singles to meet a large number of new potential partners in a very short period of time.

Participants are given a time limit in which they can talk to a potential partner, then are asked if they liked the partner before moving on to the next one. They can come alone without feeling out of place; alternatively it is something that women who like to go out in groups can do together

According to the New York Times, participants in speed dating receive an average of 2-3 out of 10 matches. Online dating participants are said to find a compatible match with 1 in 100 or fewer of the profiles they study.

The BBC reports, in the "Science of Love", that it takes between 90 seconds to 4 minutes of face-to-face interaction to determine attraction, which may give speed dating an advantage over online dating

Tinder

Tinder is an online dating and geosocial networking application launched in 2012. On Tinder, users "swipe right" to like or "swipe left" to dislike other users' profiles, which include their photos, a short bio, and some of their interests. Tinder uses a "double opt-in" system, where both users must like each other before they can exchange messages

Hinge

Hinge is an online dating application. Using an algorithm, the app displays potential matches, allowing the user to dismiss or attempt to match by responding to a specific piece of content on their profile. The service emphasizes uploading user-generated content in a variety of formats, such as photos, videos, and "prompts" as a way to express personality and appearance. The app is fully owned by Match Group as of February 2019.

High Standards

Illustration: Late night phone dates, doing wake up calls &

Pastor Rev. Lady. Sister. Nikki’s Card of high standards

Do you go to church?

Exalting Jesus in Song of Songs Do You Really Love Him? (Song of Songs 3:1)

Settle in your heart that you truly love the person you are considering for marriage. If there are doubts, then wait. If questions remain, then put things on hold. There is something worse than not being married: it is being married to the wrong person. Wisdom may sometimes say, “Wait,” especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

Search For the One Your Heart Loves (So 3:2-3)

Song of Solomon 3:2–3 ESV

2 I will rise now and go about the city, in the streets and in the squares; I will seek him whom my soul loves. I sought him, but found him not. 3 The watchmen found me as they went about in the city. “Have you seen him whom my soul loves?”

Search-

Dictionary of Biblical Languages with Semantic Domains: Hebrew (Old Testament) 1335 בָּקַשׁ

seek, search, look for, i.e., try to learn information about an object, implying a diligence in the procurement of the information

2 Timothy 3:1–5 ESV

1 But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, 4 treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.

Keep Searching After Marriage

Illustration: Honeymooner’s Episode

Marvin A. McMickle. Before We Say I Do: 7 Steps to a Healthy Marriage (Kindle Locations 276-282). Kindle Edition.

Starring Jackie Gleason as Ralph Kramden is a perpetually flustered but eternally optimistic New York City bus driver living with his wife, Alice, in a small Brooklyn apartment. Ralph's best friend is sanitation worker Ed Norton, who lives in the same building with wife Trixie.

In one episode of that comedy series, Ralph has talked his friend Ed Norton into withholding their rent because the landlord of their Brooklyn, New York, apartment building has decided to raise the rent by $5 per month. The landlord responds to their rent strike by turning off the heat in their respective apartments even though it is the middle of winter. Both men and their wives wrap themselves in coats and blankets and decide to stay inside their apartments so they cannot be served with an eviction notice.

Late one night there is a knock on Ralph Kramden's door, and he discovers that Norton is standing in the hall. With his usual boisterous tone, Ralph asks Ed why he has left his apartment. Ed responds by saying, "I didn't mind having no heat, no hot water, or eating cold food, but three days alone with my wife was more than I could stand." Norton was willing to pay the rent increase if for no other reason than that it would keep him from having to stay one more minute alone in the apartment with his wife.

Hold & Keep the One Your Heart Loves (So 3:3-4)

Song of Solomon 3:4 ESV

4 Scarcely had I passed them when I found him whom my soul loves. I held him, and would not let him go until I had brought him into my mother’s house, and into the chamber of her who conceived me.

Illustration: I know what they did there with the door closed and locked

Illustration: Parents and grandparents you need to do your part and not allow them to shack up at your house if they are not married

Exalting Jesus in Song of Songs Is He the One with Whom You Want to Spend the Rest of Your Life? (Song of Songs 3:4)

Such actions on the part of a woman or man should only take place when you are rock solid certain this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Indeed such actions should only take place within the covenant of marriage, which leads us to our fourth and final question.

Wait For the One Your Heart Loves (So 3:5)

Song of Solomon 3:5 ESV

5 I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or the does of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.

Is he or she the one? Are they worth marrying? Are they of marrying material?

Illustration: Knowing someone who spent their entire adult life trying to have someone who did not want them

Exalting Jesus in Song of Songs Is He Worth the Wait? (Song of Songs 3:5)

Unfortunately, too many have been deceived by the lies of the evil one. They have been convinced that premarital sex is the norm and that it comes without consequences, and in their deception they have suffered disappointments and sorrows that are all too common. In their well-researched book Premarital Sex in America (2011), Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker expose what they call “Ten Myths about Sex in Emerging America.” These are especially relevant to the issue of sex before and outside of marriage and provide serious food for thought. These myths include:

• MYTH: Long-term relationships are a thing of the past.

• MYTH: Sex is necessary to maintain a struggling relationship.

• MYTH: Boys are sexual beings and cannot be expected to follow sexual norms.

• MYTH: You are entirely in charge of your own sexuality; others’ decisions don’t matter.

• MYTH: Others are having more sex than you.

• MYTH: Sex doesn’t need to mean much.

• MYTH: Living together is a positive step towards marriage. (Adapted from Regnerus and Uecker, Premarital Sex in America, 236–50)

Exalting Jesus in Song of Songs Is He Worth the Wait? (Song of Songs 3:5)

Myths deceive, but God’s Word is a sure and certain guide. His counsel is always for our holiness. His wisdom is always for our good. If this is the right person, he or she is worth the wait. You will be glad you waited.

Can I keep it 100 today Min. Troy?

You can date and stay holy at the same time

You can have fun just hanging out and being together!

Companionship and intimacy is more that just physical touch!

Illustration: Instead of nightcap at the end of the date, how about a kiss and a good night outside your front door.

Naw, you not hitting home run tonight, work on R.B.I

5 love languages by Dr. Gary Chapman:

Acts of Service

Receiving Gifts

Quality Time

Words Of Affirmation

Physical Touch

Wait on the LORD!

Isaiah 40:28–31 ESV

28 Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. 29 He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. 30 Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; 31 but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

Present Your Bodies

Romans 12:1–2 ESV

1 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. 2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

You Can Wait!

Philippians 4:13 ESV

13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

You Will Supply Every Need!

Philippians 4:19 ESV

19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

Transition To Close- The profound mystery of Christ & His Church

Illustration: Courting Sis. Lady Rev. Pastor Nikki

Mother & Father

Brother

Pastor

Uncles

Grandmother Curly Cade

Malachi 2:14–16 ESV

14 But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. 15 Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. 16 “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”

Their is another who seeks too in our text today!

Exalting Jesus in Song of Songs Is He Really the Man of My Dreams? (Song of Songs 3:1–5)

The right spouse is worth waiting for and searching after diligently. In the gospel, Jesus Himself seeks after His bride even when she is unworthy.

This is why I name the sermon:

Until You Come Back To Me (That’s What I’m Gonna Do)

Jesus Came To Seek & Save the Lost

Luke 19:10 ESV

10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.”

Go Take to Yourself a Wife

Hosea 1:2–3 ESV

2 When the Lord first spoke through Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea, “Go, take to yourself a wife of whoredom and have children of whoredom, for the land commits great whoredom by forsaking the Lord.” 3 So he went and took Gomer, the daughter of Diblaim, and she conceived and bore him a son.

Hosea 3:1–2 ESV

1 And the Lord said to me, “Go again, love a woman who is loved by another man and is an adulteress, even as the Lord loves the children of Israel, though they turn to other gods and love cakes of raisins.” 2 So I bought her for fifteen shekels of silver and a homer and a lethech of barley.

Profound Mystery of Christ & the Church

Ephesians 5:31–32 ESV

31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

2 Corinthians 11:2 ESV

2 For I feel a divine jealousy for you, since I betrothed you to one husband, to present you as a pure virgin to Christ.

2 Corinthians 11:3–4 ESV

3 But I am afraid that as the serpent deceived Eve by his cunning, your thoughts will be led astray from a sincere and pure devotion to Christ. 4 For if someone comes and proclaims another Jesus than the one we proclaimed, or if you receive a different spirit from the one you received, or if you accept a different gospel from the one you accepted, you put up with it readily enough.

Close- Make yourself ready for for Jesus Christ

Jesus ultimately provides us joy and satisfaction:

Matthew 22:2–4 ESV

2 “The kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who gave a wedding feast for his son, 3 and sent his servants to call those who were invited to the wedding feast, but they would not come. 4 Again he sent other servants, saying, ‘Tell those who are invited, “See, I have prepared my dinner, my oxen and my fat calves have been slaughtered, and everything is ready. Come to the wedding feast.” ’

Keep Waiting Faithfully!

Matthew 25:1–13 ESV

1 “Then the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom. 2 Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. 3 For when the foolish took their lamps, they took no oil with them, 4 but the wise took flasks of oil with their lamps. 5 As the bridegroom was delayed, they all became drowsy and slept. 6 But at midnight there was a cry, ‘Here is the bridegroom! Come out to meet him.’ 7 Then all those virgins rose and trimmed their lamps. 8 And the foolish said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.’ 9 But the wise answered, saying, ‘Since there will not be enough for us and for you, go rather to the dealers and buy for yourselves.’ 10 And while they were going to buy, the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went in with him to the marriage feast, and the door was shut. 11 Afterward the other virgins came also, saying, ‘Lord, lord, open to us.’ 12 But he answered, ‘Truly, I say to you, I do not know you.’ 13 Watch therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour.

Rejoice at the Bridegroom’s Voice

John 3:29 ESV

29 The one who has the bride is the bridegroom. The friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly at the bridegroom’s voice. Therefore this joy of mine is now complete.

Rejoice @ the Marriage of the Lamb of God

Revelation 19:7–8 ESV

7 Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; 8 it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure”— for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints.

Revelation 19:9 ESV

9 And the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.”

Behold the Lamb of God Who...

John 1:29 ESV

29 The next day he saw Jesus coming toward him, and said, “Behold, the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world!

The Old Hymnist Would Sing

1 I am satisfied with Jesus, He has done so much for me: He has suffered to redeem me, He has died to set me free.

Refrain: I am satisfied, I am satisfied, I am satisfied with Jesus, But the question comes to me, As I think of Calvary, Is my Savior satisfied with me?

2 He is with me in my trials, Best of friends of all is He; I can always count on Jesus, Can He always count on me? [Refrain]

3 I can hear the voice of Jesus, Calling out so pleadingly, "Go and win the lost and straying"; Is He satisfied with me? [Refrain]

4 When my work on earth is ended, And I cross the mystic sea, Oh, that I could hear Him saying, "I am satisfied with thee." [Refrain]

Rev. Milton Biggham - Really Love the Lord

Ooh yea yea, lord

Umm, listen

I really love the lord, mhm

I really love the lord, yeah

See you don’t know what he’s done for me

He gave me the victory

See I love him I love him

I really love the the lord

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