Former NFL football player turned pastor; Miles McPherson says a lot of people don’t understand the real purpose of marriage. Speaking to a group of college students at Liberty University, McPherson warned the students not to get married because they want to get happy, because that motivation is wrong. McPherson said marriage is not designed to make you happy, it “is there to make you holy.” He encouraged the students to focus less on what they can get in a relationship and more on what they can contribute to it. He says takers acquire what they want on their own terms, while people who are receivers get what they need by giving to others. Using experience from his own marriage as an example, McPherson said, “You realize that the only way the relationship is going to work is if you deny yourself. You have to give. Your marriage will never work if you are a taker.” He added, “It’s a compromise; we both have to give, why? Because God wants to make us holy and the only way to be holy is to let go.”—Jim L. Wilson and Jim Sandell
Marriage Not There to Make You Happy, Says Megachurch Pastor, By Leonardo Blair, http://www.christianpost.com/news/marriage-not-there-to-make-you-happy-says-megachurch-pastor-8932, Accessed February 4, 2013.
Ephesians 5:25-27 (ESV) (25) Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, (26) that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, (27) so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.