Manhood at home
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· 4 viewsDuty of men at home. How should we lead our homes? Biblical manhood and our relationships with our wife and kids.
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A Christian husband should be more interested in bringing his family into the presence of God than whether the children are enjoying themselves in the process.
A husband is, by God’s design, the priest of the family.
A husband should function as the worship leader for his marriage.
He should set apart his home as a temple of God, keeping it holy and undefiled.
The flame of God’s spirit should burn brightly in his own heart and in his home.
He is to guard the Word of God in his home, making sure it is honored by all.
He should be the one who reminds his wife and his family of the once-for-all sacrifice Christ made on our behalf.
A husband should assume the responsibility of leading his family into the presence of God.
He should initiate prayer with his wife, not only at meals, but at different times during the day.
He should make regular church attendance a family priority.
He should lead the family in songs of praise to God.
Part of his priestly task is to regularly remind his wife and family of God’s grace and mercy in forgiving sins.
He declares God’s love for them.
He reminds them that their heavenly Father has cast their sins into the depths of the sea.
I want to go over a few stats about the importance of men and fathers.
17.8 Million Children, Nearly 1 in 4, Without a Biological, Step, or Adoptive Father at Home.
Research shows, when a child is raised in a father-absent home, they are affected in the following ways... Greater Risk of Poverty More Likely to Have Behavioral Problems Greater Risk of Infant Mortality More Likely to Go to Prison More Likely to Commit Crime More Likely to Become Pregnant as a Teen More Likely to Face Abuse and Neglect More Likely to Abuse Drugs and Alcohol More Likely to Suffer Obesity More Likely to Drop Out of School. Men who grew up with absent fathers were more likely to become absent fathers. They also found that women who grew up with absent fathers are more likely to have children with absent fathers.
Children with involved fathers have a strong foundation for child well-being. The Strengths of Father Presence They are at lower risk for a host of poor childhood outcomes.
Infant Mortality Low Birth Weight Emotional and Behavioral Problems Neglect and Abuse Injury Obesity Poor School Performance Teen Pregnancy Incarceration as Juveniles Alcohol and Substance Abuse Criminal Activity Suicide
I dont think the role of a man and being a Biblical man, can be overstated.
4 P’s of manhood at home
4 P’s of manhood at home
Be proactive in spiritual things. Going to church, worshipping etc.
Pursue God.
Pastor his home. Just as there are pastors of the church. You and only YOU are the pastor of your home. Its your duty as a husband to Pastor your home.
Be a protector.
Men are to LEAD their homes.
Men are to LEAD their homes.
How do we lead our homes? Whats that look like?
1 Corinthians 11:3 (KJV 1900)
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Ephesians 5:25–30 (KJV 1900)
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Head doesnt mean dominance.
God doesnt view women as second class citizens.
The responsibilty of men and their home, with wives, children etc.
The responsibilty of men and their home, with wives, children etc.
what responsibility has God given us to lead not just our homes in general but our wife and our children?
How can we better at that?
Lets dive into our relationship with our wives first, whats that look like?
Lets dive into our relationship with our wives first, whats that look like?
The Bible commands us to love our wives as Christ loved the church. How does Christ love the church? What is that example that the scripture is trying to teach us here?
Is it to serve her? If so what does that mean? Whats it mean to serve our wives?
Do you know what your wifes top three needs are right now?
What about her dreams? What about her hobbies?
There is no question that words communicate love, but so do actions. You need to do both.
One of the missing ingredients in male leadership in homes is sacrificial action. When was the last time you gave up something for your wife—something you genuinely valued, like your golf game, a fishing trip, or your hobby? Sometimes you need to give up something you enjoy so your wife can have a break and see your love for her. https://www.theraineys.org/post/what-does-the-bible-say-about-a-husband-s-role-and-responsibilities-in-marriage
Now lets talk about our children. I believe the same concept applies to our children as well. That we are to love them as Christ loved the church. But we surely have some different perspectives in our relationship with them. So whats that look like? What should we relay to our children? Whats the example of Jesus and whats scripture say about raising our children.
Now lets talk about our children. I believe the same concept applies to our children as well. That we are to love them as Christ loved the church. But we surely have some different perspectives in our relationship with them. So whats that look like? What should we relay to our children? Whats the example of Jesus and whats scripture say about raising our children.
Train up a child in the way he should go:
And when he is old, he will not depart from it.
And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
He that spareth his rod hateth his son:
But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
As ye know how we exhorted and comforted and charged every one of you, as a father doth his children, That ye would walk worthy of God, who hath called you unto his kingdom and glory.
And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
These few scriptures give us good ideas on what we should be instilling in our children etc.
Our duty of provision for our family
Our duty of provision for our family
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
I dont think this is just talking about physical needs which we will talk about more in the next episode, but, I also believe this is talking about spiritual needs as well.
Gods design of man to be workers, different muscle masses etc. Built different for different types of work.
Ok for the ones that arent married, whats the advice for when they do get married when it comes to providing for our family? What would be your best piece of advice for that?
Ok for the ones that arent married, whats the advice for when they do get married when it comes to providing for our family? What would be your best piece of advice for that?
The duty of men to lead their homes spiritually:
The duty of men to lead their homes spiritually:
What would you say the duty of man is to lead our homes spiritually? What does that mean?
How important is it for men to set the standard or prayer etc in our homes?
What are some ways we can institute Godly things into our home?
So what are the spiritual needs we should be providing for our families?
He should set apart his home as a temple of God, keeping it holy and undefiled.
He should set apart his home as a temple of God, keeping it holy and undefiled.
How can we protect our homes spiritually? What are some things we should never allow in our homes?
What about protecting our homes physically? We obviously have a duty to do that as well right?
Close with an overview of what biblical manhood at home looks like:
Close with an overview of what biblical manhood at home looks like:
-servant leadership
-INVESTED, in wife, in kids etc.
-Prayer
-PASTOR YOUR HOME
How do we pastor our home, whats that mean?