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Turn your bible to Matthew chapter 1.

This time of your is a double edged sword.

Its a time of great happiness and joy, but or many people its a time of incredible sadness and loneliness.

Especially if you have had tragedy strike during these months.

Christmas is such a highly emotional and impacting holiday, and many remember the first Christmas without their loved one.

Last week we looked at Colossians chapter

too top it off suicides increase during this time of year, family fights and addiction increases during this time of year.

Many people suffer from a nagging sense of loneliness, even if you are married.

Now don’t get the idea that the only people that get lonely are people that are alone.

But you can feel lonely in a house full of people.

You can feel alone, in a church full of people.

You can be married and see each other every day and still feel like you are alone.

On top of this the devil will speak lies to you to further isolate you.

He will speak words like people don’t really appreciate you or they are just using you.

Your husband could care less if you are around or not, in fact that is why he is always trying to get out and hunt, or ride his dirt bike or spending all his time at work.

Because He is just trying to get away from you.

Don’t forget the Lords words concerning the enemy He comes to Steal, kill and destroy.

He will steal your joy, your contentment and your happiness, He will kill your soul with lies and trying to make a spiritual pact with you.

No one cares for me, (then you repeat) No one cares for me.

No one loves you (no one loves me), And he will destroy your soul, your vibrancy.

He will do everything, move you elsewhere to keep the world from feeling your impact.

he will do anything and everything to keep you from coming alive and Christ and letting that light of yours shine.

If you don’t remember anything else I say today, remember this JESUS, The Lord Jesus Christ is God’s answer to your loneliness.

And when you get things lined up with him

Now the irony of this is that the Lord came as a cure to our loneliness.

matthew 1:18

Matthew 1

Underline that last verse in verse 23.

God with us

You see God did not only send His son to come and die so that you might experience the sweet By and By.

He came also to walk with you and I in the nasty Now and now.

Jesus is God’s answer to your loneliness.

I. Loneliness Is a Common Fact

The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.

-F.

Scott Fitzgerald

Thomas Wolfe, who is a famous novelist, said, “Loneliness is far from being a rare and curious phenomenon.

It is the central, inevitable fact of human existence.”

And Dr. Paul Tournier, who is a famous Swiss psychologist, had this to say.

He said, “Loneliness is the most devastating malady of the age.”

Now that is a big statement: “the most devastating malady of the age.”

And again, Dr. Abraham Maslow, famed research analyst, estimates this amazing thought.

Listen to this.

Here’s a direct quote from this man: “The truth is that the average American citizen does not have a real friend in this world.”

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And Dr. Paul Tournier, who is a famous Swiss psychologist, had this to say.

He said, “Loneliness is the most devastating malady of the age.”

Now that is a big statement: “the most devastating malady of the age.”

And again, Dr. Abraham Maslow, famed research analyst, estimates this amazing thought.

Listen to this.

Here’s a direct quote from this man: “The truth is that the average American citizen does not have a real friend in this world.”

That

What is loneliness?

Its not the same thing as solitude.

Solitude is good ists where we can get away from all the hustle and bustle and recharge.

Its a place where we can rediscover our heart after we are burnt up on life.

2. Its not the same as lonsomeness- That is yearning for and missing somone.

Its not the same as lonsomeness- That is yearning for and missing somone.

LONELINESS IS MUCH MORE sinister than that, and it is a state of being were the sinister minister of misery can take your heart and gouge it, wound it and ultimately destroy it .

Loneliness is the feeling of being unneeded, uncared for, unwanted and unneccesary.

LONELINESS IS MUCH MORE sinister than that, and it is a state of being were the sinister mionister of misery can take your heart and gouge it, wound it and ultimately destroy it .

Loneliness is the feeling of being unneeded, uncared for, unwanted and unneccesary.

Every person has three great needs:

You have a need to love and to be intimate with other people

You have a need to be understood, somebody who knows and really understands you- In fact this is how many affairs start.

There comes someone in your life who begins to pay attention to you when you are not getting it at home.

You have a need to be needed and wanted.

Husbands this is why the Bible commands you to love your wives and dwell with them with understanding.

Because if you don’t watch the enemy will bring someone into her path that will give her the attention she wants to get her in bed.

Wives this is why the Bible commands you to respect you husbands.

A man doesn’t need to be loved, his great desire is that he is respected.

Reasons People are Lonely

A. People are lonely because they have rejected in the past

Tis is my greatest hurrdle in helping people find healing at this church, to find family and community at this church.

We have all had times when someone has rejected us.

We have all had people that have handled our heart wrong, maybe they misused and abused the heart and finally rejected you all together.

This is what I have discovered hurt people hurt people, and healed people heal people.

Maybe it came from a parent that rejected you, or maybe a father that was never there.

You know you would think if he was never there in the first place it wouldn't be hard, but the enemy is really good at speaking lies from an early age, and you begin to believe the lie because he was sorry and didn’t stick around mayber there is something wrong with you.

People suffer rehection when a spuce walks out on.

Or maybe a church, a minister that has rejected you.

Mark Twain said one time, “If a cat sits on a hot stove, he’ll never sit on a hot stove again.”

And then he said, “As a matter of fact, he won’t sit on any stove again.”

If you’ve been hurt, you’re just afraid to try again.

And that’s one reason that people are lonely

B. People Are Lonely Because They Have a Poor Self-Image

Another reason is that some people just have such a poor self-image.

They have a basic insecurity.

They don’t see themselves as worthy of having friends.

They don’t see themselves as worthy of being loved.

And they’re afraid to reach out, because they’re afraid that no one will reach back.

They have this deep-seated insecurity.

They can’t accept others and be accepted by others, because they’ve never really accepted themselves as God has accepted them.

C. People Are Lonely Because They’ve Gone Through Pain and Suffering

C. People Are Lonely Because They’ve Gone Through Pain and Suffering

Maybe its the loss of a child, a mate, and they experience such levels of pain that they think to themeslves that no one else could possibly understand what they’ve been through.

This is the reason why support groups are so affective.

Becasue when you feel like someone can empathize with your pain.

But the danger is thinking that you have to have empathy before you can experience intamacy with another person.