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CLS Ephesians 5_22-33 Love Your Spouse

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Secular:

  • Last week… we talked about where the anchor for our faith is…. In whom do you trust?
  • for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions
  • one’s life consists in the abundance of the grace of God and revelling in His glory forever!
  • We shouldn’t be so spiritually shallow to as to worship the gift offered…. But to glorify the Giver…
  •  Salvation isn’t worship worthy… and is a self-defeating activity…
  • The message of true wealth was communicated to the dirt-floor-poor, subsistence farmers, who would get the rich-poor analogy… and would love the richest promise… God… to His Glory
  •  Understanding the context helps us to put the text in the right frame… historical-grammatical
  •  When we talk about the Holy Spirit’s role….
    • Normative…
    • Know the reader, know the hearer, (their language the words, context the setting, culture their presuppositions) that is where the communication takes place…
    • It has to mean what the inspired author meant… intercepted letter
    • The Holy Spirit brings the humanly unknowable significance…
    • The message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing… it isn’t that the words are beyond them, or that the best secular ANE scholars couldn’t understand the text and its implications… but complete understanding comes when the words have significance and only the Holy Spirit can bring the significance to the message of scripture…
  • Last week I spent some time setting the context for the message… dirt roads and sandals…
  • This morning I want to do that, but also help you see the author and the hearer and what they would understand…
  • It is our role in understand God’s Word.
  • God’s Word declares who He is, How He operates, His expected response from those who love him…
  • Our obedience to God’s Word… demonstrates whether we trust in him or not….
  • Understanding of it, Commitment to it, Practice of it
  • It communicates to others what we do or do not believe….
  • So knowing what the author communicated, what the hearers heard, how that applies to me is a critical part of our testimony and glory giving… when we come with the right heart the Holy Spirit ministers the Word to our hearts
  •  One of the clearest pictures of how God views his church and his expectation of his children is given in the example of marriage.
  • True faith is manifest in glorifying God…. Glorifying God is to hear his Word… to hear and know is to testify…
  • That is what makes this picture so critical.

 

Biblical:

Wives and Husbands

Eph 5:22-33… 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Saviour. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendour, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31  “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Personal:

  • Did you gasp, squirm, smile, frown,…. What happened when I read the text?
  • Why did it happen?
  • Our reactions are anchored in our own preunderstandings and presuppositions…. 
    • 1) Culturally 2) Functionally
  • It is vitally important that we set aside our biases and hear the text in context.
  • Paul – Apostle – Jail 60 ad… Rome
  •  Ephesus 250,000 people… bit of Jewish/Christian population… wealthy… port city (Cosmopolitan)… only Rome and Alexandria were more populous or influential
  • Artemis cult… she had a divine covenant with the city… temple was 1 of 7 ancient wonders… cult major savings and loan…
  •  Also prevalent… magic and powers
  • There are also two 1st century “ideas” about the relationship between men and women.
  •  Into this context the letter was read…

Bridge:

  •     It is about the Glory of God in all things
  • We really don’t get to choose what we apply…. Onl how

Body:

Eph 5:22-33… 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Saviour. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

  • One’s cultural sensitivity cringes at the language….
  •  Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
  •  Often we attempt to neutralize Paul… sync him with Galatians 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
  • But what does it mean?
  • In context…
  • Are their races, genders, creeds?
  • Do we become neutered, become free from encumbrances, debts, employment contracts, non-descript in our heritage
  •  God has not made us identical… in body or mind… life circumstance….
  • It was important in the light of contemporary Jewish thought to highlight the value of Gentiles, Slaves and Women…. And in balance it was also important for our text to balance to remind us we have been uniquely created by God… we are equal if not the same – and God said they were good.
  • Submit… is not obey… imprecise….
    • Submit is like our relationship to gov’t or military… not about value…. About roles
  • How about the words…. As to the Lord
      • It is about testimony
      • How we feed the poor
      • Carry the gospel
      • Submit to husband
  • This is about glorifying God….
  • Just as v.23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Saviour.
    • Remember 1st author and reader
    • Historical-grammatical
    • It means what it says…
  • 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
  • If we truly have a relationship with God
  • We MUST pursue his Glory
  • We must be faithful to be faithful in the relationship
    • Serving his as asked… as required
  • It is about God’s Glory

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendour, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

  • Verses 25-27 is one long sentence with two major thoughts   
    • Seriously… love your wife as love the church
    • Gave himself up for her
      • Physical suffering
      • Shame (vs. pride)
      • Spiritual pain
    • Sacrificial leadership
  • Second thought
    • To present her blameless, in splendour
      • Leadership
      • Love
      • Example
  • We are Christ’s and his motive is God’s glory, and the glory of the bride
  • Men can you say that?
    • That our motive is God’s glory, and the glory of our bride
  • What did the reader understand… what was the author saying? This is not a call for a selfish relationship… or for abuse… this is a call to the most intimate love!
  • Testimony for his glory

29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31  “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

  •  29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body… the natural…. Is to Glorify God… even our natural response
  • You can not share this kind of relationship with another human being… that is why we have to leave and cleave… just as we spiritually have to leave and cleave to Christ…. No sharing… middle ground…
  • We can’t share our spiritual faith with other gods
  •  We can share our marriage bond with others…
    • Not with family, friends, kids…. First duty to God… in your earthly relationship first to kids!
  •  Your leave the others for the one!
  • Then you set the relationships in the right frame…
  • Then the one flesh miracle… sexual unity, spiritual unity… to the exclusions of others
  • 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
  •  Why is marriage so important…
    • Wives to live your roles?
    • Husbands to live your roles?
  •  Because God chose Godly marriage to be a witness to the world… a testimony to the relationship He desires with us…
  • How will we testify?

33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

  • Wives are to valued, loved, heard, cherished…
    • How would you?
  • Husbands are to be respected, loved, encouraged….
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