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God recognizes the reality of conflict.
The Damage of Un-Reconciled Conflict
It blocks your fellowship with God.
You can’t have fellowship with God and be at odds with other people.
It prevents answered prayer
Husbands if you don’t treat your wife right, forget about answered prayer.
It hinders your happiness
7 Biblical Steps to Reconciling Conflict
1.
Take the Initiative
Conflict is seldom resolved by accident.
Time does not heal all wounds.
Conflict must be intentionally dealt with.
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The only way to reconcile conflict is to face it.
The first thing you will deal with in this process is… your Fear
1st thing you must deal with is your fear
If you are scared, you are in good company with the rest of us…
Fear is as old as Adam and Eve...
The fear of being exposed or being vulnerable does 3 things to us…
Defensive - afraid to reveal our real selves
distant - withdraw and hide our true feelings
demanding - try to control things… have the last word.
Fear keeps us from connecting at a deep level
We fear rejection, being misunderstood,
There was a book I read years ago, Why am I afraid to tell you who I am?
Where do we find the courage to reconcile?
Holy Spirit!
Perfect love gets rid of fear… God is love so ask God for help.
Talk to Him before you talk to anyone else.
2nd thing you deal with is timing
We think OK, when they come to me, then I’ll reconcile.
Listen, God expects you to take the initiative.
Take the first step.
How many of you like to worship?
BTW, Wed was awesome.
We had people sitting in the Hallway and everyone was letting it go in worship.
God says to go reconcile before you worship.
ever fight in the car on the way to church???
Jesus is saying, don’t ignore it… take care of it.
It doesn’t matter if you are offended or you are the offender.
We are to take the initiative.
When - right now… ASAP… Don’t delay because it only makes it harder.
3rd Plan a sit down meeting - Face the Issues -
Choose the right time! timing is everything.
Do this when both people are at their best.
NEVER DROP THE BOMB IN BED BEFORE GOING TO SLEEP
You may be ready to share… are they ready to receive?
Right Place - where you will be uninterrupted.
Pray before the meeting.
Come with a positive attitude.
Be ready to reconcile and compromise...
Why should I take the initiative?
Jesus tells you to.
Worship is worthless until you do.
Think about someone whom you need to reconcile with… Ask God to give you the courage.
Once you get together,
2. Confess your part of the conflict
Instead of accusing… blaming … Begin with humility.
even if it’s 90% their fault, confess the 10% that’s yours.
Everyone has blind spots… no one is perfect.
Am I being unrealistic?
insensitive?
oversensitive?
Ungrateful? too demanding?
#1 excuse for divorce - We are not compatible… That’s a myth.
Anyone can live life together if they grow up.
FACT - Our nature is to be self centered and stubborn… unwilling to change.
More relationships die from inflexibility than anything else.
Bible says - Before honor is humility.
Are you stuck?
Here is a wall breaker - say… I am sorry, I was only thinking about myself.
3. Listen for the Hurt
Hurting people hurt people...
When people feel threatened, fearful or robbed of their dignity, they become angry and often lash out.
If you want to connect with people, you must start with their needs, not yours.
2 ears - 1 mouth for a reason… We are in too big of a hurry to be heard and not a big enough hury to listen and understand.
Here is a key to defusing conflict:
Understand where people are coming from
Understand their circumstances… background… temperment
This verse and these 7 steps I am giving you will save you thousands in counseling…
Two areas we need to be considerate:
4. Consider their perspective
Don’t just look at the situation from your viewpoint.
Intentially switch your focus from your needs to their needs… Try to get and understand their perspective.
Old proverb - Seek to understand before being understood.
Pay attention.
You are like Jesus when you pay attention.
5. Tell the truth tactfully
Never use the truth as a club to hurt people.
Always - speak the truth in love.
People change faster and easier when the truth is wrapped in love...
Truth without love is resisted.
with love it is received.
reckless words hurt… wise words bring healing.
It’s your choice.
You never get your point across being cross.
Never persuasive by being abrasive!
We have to learn to attack issues without attacking each other.
Establish ground rules for fighting fair… the goal is not to win but to reconcile.
6. Fix the problem, not the blame
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