Instead of the stay quiet and be guitlty, I wish the church culture was more like would reconize that "[f]eelings cannot be wished away; feelings are often involuntary. They are the natural response to messages sent to the body by the brain, which is reacting to perceived danger. Since the message may or may not be accurate, the problem is not the emotion you feel, but the reason you feel it."
Source: Campbell, K. (1996). Those ugly emotions: How to manage your emotions (24). Ross-shire, GB.: Christian Focus Publications.