1 Corinthians 7_3 Understanding Your Mates Needs
Understanding Your Spouses Needs
Key Verse
"A man should fulfill his duty as a husband and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's needs.“
1 Corinthians 7:3
Introduction: Explain format, last sermon in series, invite Shanova up on stage.
Her Needs
1. Affection
Colossians 3:19
"Husbands give your wives much love; never treat them harshly."
Definition of Affection?
His Needs
1. Affection
Proverbs 5:18-19
"Be faithful and true to your wife . . . Let your manhood be a blessing: rejoice in your wife . . . Let her charms and breasts satisfy you. Let her love fill you with delight!"
Definition of Affection? Sex
Affection is the atmosphere. Sex is the event.
Her Needs
1. Affection
2. Conversation
Philippians 2:4
"Don't just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others too, and in what they are doing."
His Needs
1. Affection
2. Companionship
Colossians 3:18
"Wives, adapt yourselves to your husbands; that is your Christian duty."
Go to a football game. Watch fishing on TV.
Her Needs
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Emotional Stability
Proverbs 26:23
"Insincere talk hides what you are really thinking . . .
It brings nothing but ruin."
His Needs
1. Affection
2. Companionship
3. Visual Stimulation
1 Samuel 16:7
"Man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart."
I’m not God.
Men are visual creatures.
Her Needs
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Emotional Stability
4. Financial Security
1 Timothy 5:8
"If anyone does not provide for his relatives, especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."
His Needs
1. Affection
2. Companionship
3. Visual Stimulation
4. Domestic Security
Proverbs 17:1
"Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting with strife."
Her Needs
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Emotional Stability
4. Financial Security
5. Commitment to Family
Proverbs 5:15
“Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone."
His Needs
1. Affection
2. Companionship
3. Visual Stimulation
4. Domestic Security
5. Admiration
Ephesians 5:33
“. . . Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband -- that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly.”
Proverbs 14:1
“Homes are made by the wisdom of women.”
Conclusion:
Divorced couples in Albuquerque, New Mexico, can take advantage of a new business in town. The company is called Freedom Rings: Jewelry for the Divorced. Founded by jeweler and divorcee Lynn Peters, the company makes custom jewelry out of wedding rings. Each customer at Freedom Rings pays a fee, and the ring-smashing ceremony begins--complete with champagne and music. Just before the smashing the M.C. says, "We will now release any remaining ties to your past by transforming your ring--which represents the past--into a token of your new beginning. Now take the hammer. Stop for a moment to consider the transformation that is about to begin your new life. Ready? With this swing let freedom ring!"
She then uses a four-pound sledgehammer to whack her emblem of love and fidelity into a shapeless piece of metal. And the ceremony ends. Women are pounding their wedding rings into pendants and men are grinding theirs into golf ball markers.
They are looking for a fresh start, a new beginning. I have great news for you. There is a better way for a new beginning. 2,000 years ago some Roman soldiers pounded three nails into the hands and feet of a man named Jesus who was called The Christ. The pounding of those nails into his body broke all the chains of your past. Your freedom rang out on a hot Jerusalem day when they laid Jesus on the cross and pounded those nails for you. He went through the agony of crucifixion so that your sins could be forgiven.
It is time for us to have a FREEDOM CEREMONY. Please stand with me. Who will be first to take their marriage to God’s cross. You may be here by yourself today. Your mate is not here. You come to the cross by yourself and you will not be alone. There are many who will come this morning by themselves, but they will not be alone, Others will be there and Jesus is at the cross.
Many need to come to the cross this morning and carry their children’s marriage or a friends marriage. When the paralytic could not get to Jesus, his friends tore open the roof and lowered him. The Bible says, “When Jesus say the faith of a few close friends, He healed the man.” Today, you can be one of those friends. Come on, Come now. Come to the cross and carry the burdens for children and your friends.
Today, some need to come to the cross for salvation. Here’s how you do it. Come, take my hand and we will show you what it takes to have salvation and victory in your life.
Join the church.
Come.