Family Testimony
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A little girl was so excited when she learned of the story of snow white. She told the whole thing to her mom. As she came to the ending she told her mom of how Prince Charming kissed Snow White and how they fell in love. In excitement she asked her mom if she knew what happened next???
The Mother: “They lived happily ever after”
Daughter: “Nope, they got married.”
Marriage is not always the fairy tale Hollywood may depict, BUT as you and I live out in our marriages with the instructions and commands God has laid out we can see harmony between the husband and the wife… Our marriages have potential to be our greatest testimony!!!
Peter opened this letter dealing with our Head & Heart pertaining to the Gospel and salvation. Now Peter is dealing with the Hands… the action/living out this salvation.
We looked at Submission and that this is done out of:
A desire to follow God’s Will
It is the heart motive that God is concerned with
Today and next week we will be looking at the responsibilities of both the wives and the husbands in marriage. Before we do let’s look at the basis of our RESPONSIBILITY
The Basis of Our Responsibility
The Basis of Our Responsibility
Paul states in his letter to the Philippian church this: Philippians 2:5-8
Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
Later Paul would reflect on the union of marriage as it pertains to the church as the bride of Christ and state this Ephesians 5:31-33
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.
As Peter addresses marriage he begins with “In the same way...” for both the wife and Husband
In the same way as what? or who?
Peter has just stated the example of Christ that you and I have… in verses 2:21-25
He (Jesus Christ) is the basis for how we should engage in our marriages
As Peter addresses marriage remember two things:
1) Peter is married, he is not speaking to something he is clueless about
2) Peter is writing scripture lead by the Holy Spirit
This instruction holds with it the power and authority of the Word of God
Peter addresses the wives first in 1 Peter 3:1-7
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear. You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
Marriage
Marriage
This is a difficult topic for some.
There is hurt from the past and some are struggling in the present with this
Today I don’t want to ‘preach” to anyone, rather I want to come alongside as a man who is a husband learning to do my best to love his wife as Christ has loved His bride the church
I am so glad God’s Word deals with real life in a real way.
Before we continue in this passage let’s look at Marriage…
Marriage was instituted by God for God to show a picture of Christ relationship with the church. He has left us His Word to show us how marriage should work.
So what does it say?
Genesis 1:26 and Genesis 2:22-24 made to rule together!
Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the cattle and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”
The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
God brought her to you
God created the marriage union
Marriage is God’s idea!!!
YET… because of man’s SIN scripture also records in 1 Corinthians 7:28 “There will be trouble”!
But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.
Even if Christ had married there would have been trouble…
Not from Him, he’s perfect, but his wife wouldn’t be… in fact His bride is not perfect YET He loves her
Ladies your husband is not Christ, he is not perfect (and can’t be)
Men your wife is not Christ… she can’t be perfect either
Chuck Swindoll in a message said in marriage there are 3 Rings
1) Engagement Ring
2) Wedding Ring
3) Suffer-Ring
Marriage isn’t to make us happy
It’s not an emotion it is an action, a choice, an example!!! (FAR GREATER THAN “HAPPY”)
As Christ has with the Church we need to show GRACE with each-other
Marriage in America and the church is in trouble…
A generation that doesn't know what marriage looks like!
Church we better show them and God’s Word shows us!
It is time for the church to focus on what we are supposed to do vs. what do we feel like doing
Introduce the tool… THE FILE one way to use it!
CHAINSAW all the components are there.... it runs, makes noise, sounds powerful, but for some reason it does NOT GO DEEP!!!!
WHY??? The file… it is used wrong… there is only one way to use a file. God is the designer of marriage, there is ONE WAY… His way.
Peter describes God’s intentions in this way...
In The Same Way… Wives
In The Same Way… Wives
Peter here states that wives should be submissive on purpose for a purpose...
WHAT IS NOT BEING STATED
Stay in an abusive relationship
Women are subservient to men (own husband)
Women are less than men...
Some here are probably thinking if my husband were more like Jesus it would be easy to submit… This is true to an extent have you noticed His bride???
Submission is a heart issue remember.
What your husband sees when you are the real you.
Much is observed in the home that nobody else sees, what is your spouse seeing.
Your inner beauty. Peter is not saying don’t make yourself pretty, but rather don’t let that be the focus!
“hidden person of the heart” = your true character… What is in your heart?
It can lead to salvation for an unsaved husband or to obedience in a disobedient husband
Wives you are NOT the Holy Spirit
Howe often have your words or actions hindered God’s desire to work
“as they observe” this is ongoing not an occasion…
chaste= purity of the heart
RESPECTFUL behavior= are you demonstration a genuine respect
Submission is not pleasing… rather a desire and will to honor God through your actions
Submission is not pleasing… rather a desire and will to honor God through your actions
This was done in respect and not fear or for manipulation
God not only commands submission, but He uses it as a powerful spiritual influence in a home.
This does not mean that a Christian wife “gives in” to her unsaved husband in order to subtly manipulate him and get him to do what she desires.
Women you need to look for examples to follow and strive to be an example for younger to follow after
Women of that day could look to Sarah calling Abraham lord a sign of respect
Who is it you are looking to… pray for them and their marriage and seek to grow
Men we have covered 6 verses today on wives… next time we will focus on husbands, one verse with powerful impact!!! But don’t leave today thinking there is not something for us to learn or apply… we are ALL called the Bride of Christ
The Bride of Christ
The Bride of Christ
As his bride we submit ourselves to Him, His headship and authority… the One who gave Himself up for His bride.
The proposal to enter into His suffering and into a deep passionate relationship...
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